Posts Tagged ‘Self-Image’

The Triumphs and Perils of Self-Image

Friday, February 5th, 2010

Self-image is everything!  It speaks volumes.  It controls us and our actions to the nth degree.  There’s no getting around it.  That’s where the problems and solutions lie.

As I wrote in my first two blogs, I want to communicate what I learned about self-transformation – reprogramming that stubborn self-image – while in London, England, a year ago.  I’ve written a book about the experience Lost and Found in London, but also want to get the word out virtually.

When I arrived in London, I was delighted to be there, but was also feeling a little desperate.  My life wasn’t what I wanted it to be – both personally and professionally.  I was frustrated, but had no idea what to do about it.  Somehow things weren’t going as I had hoped, but the cause of my inability to achieve the life I fantasized about was a mystery to me.

Unfortunately, it’s difficult to identify any one root cause of a person’s attitudes and actions.  We are all like giant puzzles with many, many parts, influenced by the various worlds I have mentioned – the worlds of family, friends, community, country, and planet.  Trying to isolate a key piece to explain the whole puzzle is foolish.  There are simply too many elements involved in creating the person you have become.

But there are patterns and clues to what makes us tick – and we should be on the look-out for them.  In terms of self-image, the good news for me is that I have always seen myself as a reasonably slim person – and rarely have weight problems (except when I’ve fallen in love with a good cook!).  That self-image is like an internal guardian – mentally watching the scales!  The bad news is that my stable, up-and-coming, middle-class life was destroyed when my father died at age 31, leaving my 25-year-old mother alone with three children under 5.  That led to a life of instability and relative poverty – and, I believe, greatly affected my self-image.

When I first met Chris, my London Life Coach, our task was to reveal and revise the negative aspects of my self-image.  The ones that were creating my own personal glass ceiling …limiting my life.  More to come …